I’m going to hurt myself, and it will lead to a setback.Īsk Yourself:Are you trying to keep up with the Joneses or blazing your own trail? Stay focused on your goals even when someone else is pointing you in another direction. I’m not going to magically be in super shape because I do three sets at 40 kg like the guy next to me. She made a recommendation, I needed to speak up if it was too much too soon.Īsk Yourself:Where are you letting others tell you what to do instead of speaking up and sharing your insights? There’s no competition for who goes the farthest the fastest. Honestly, I only did one set, and less than halfway through felt the intense burn. On some of the machines, she wanted to start me with minimal weight, and on others, we went up fast. In fact, I’ll still be sore and will use it as fuel to remind myself I’m doing something that matters, not just because it’s easy.Īsk Yourself: What’s causing you pain… and as a result, you’re shying away instead of sticking with it? I can barely move, but as soon as I can, I’ll be back at the gym. 7 Questions to Ask Yourself When Living and Leading Through a Change When you do something you’ve never done before (or for a long time), it may hurt. Kind of like that at work too, huh? Or when you try to do 7th-grade math with your child – it should be easy, but it’s not. When you don’t use muscles for a long time, it’s a hell of a wake-up call when you finally do. My resolve is still present even if the pain has put a damper on my enthusiasm. She was the expert.Īs I now limp and strain to lift my laptop onto my lap, I still plan to go back and do it again.
Then I reminded myself that she knew best how to achieve my goals. Bummer, I thought, I really want more tone in my arms. Shoulders, delts, pecs were a focus as she walked me right past biceps and triceps. We tried a number of exercises to see how they felt and determine the right weights.
It’s a lesson I forgot when I showed up at the gym to meet my trainer. Coaching works best when I lean in 100%, they lean in 100% and together, we make things happen. The challenge comes when they stop being a partner in the coaching and look to me as the leader in the relationship – the one with all of the answers. In the end, I don’t decide what they’re willing and able to do, they do. In reality, we talk about their goals, what they’re currently doing to achieve them, and start exploring new skills and approaches to bring into their repertoire. They call me up, are ready for a change and look to me to tell them steps 1 – 100 to make it happen. It’s interesting that this sounds like a lot of my coaching clients when they first contact me. I told her my goals and trusted that she knew what I needed better than I did. I booked a trainer and asked her to help me take the next step and introduce me to machines I should be using but wasn’t using because they looked intimidating. I was bored with my gym routine and knew that it was time for more. This weekend I enthusiastically started a new circuit at the gym and now my enthusiasm, while still present, needs a lot of Advil too. It’s a good thing that you type with your fingertips because that’s about all I can move today.